Disconnect to Reconnect

Monday, 20 January 2020


These days I found it very tiring to stay on social media. It's tiring trying to be positive all the time. All in all social media is super tiring. I learned a lot of things and would like to share a little bit of it with you guys. 

Being positive all the time is tiring


I used to update every single thing on my social media until one day I feel very exhausted of doing so. My mental health starts dropping very rapidly as well as my body. It was very exhausting to the point that I began pushing people away from me. My life went upside down, everything changed. It's sad thinking people don't even care about you but the truth is you're just OVERTHINKING. Now that is unhealthy. 

I was aware that thing was wrong. So, I gotta fix it. To cherish what I have I decided to go out and find people who are dear to me. spend time with them. Chat. Talk. Make jokes. Laugh. And live. Yes, that is the way to live. The way I wish to live. I realised that and I am happy. Alhamdulillah. 

Social media friends and real friends are different. Learn to differentiate them.


What I noticed is that it's like we're making social media as a bench mark for almost everything. For example the Instagram. We know Instagram are super hot these days and most of us are on it. IF the stories are hide, the account is blocked and etc, it doesn't mean that people hate you. That is not the only reason exist for people to keep you away from their life. Might be that there are things people don't wish to share. It's their right to do so. It's their very own account. 

Being on social media is okay. But know your limit. Limit to yourself and the limit that you give to others. Don't make it primary or permanent because things like social media won't stay forever. As well as the people on it. The excitement won't last. Don't make it a benchmark to a friendship or relationship. This is just sick. There's a limit to everything. So, make sure you know yours. 

You can change it


Rather than focusing on other people's update, staring at the phone all day long why not go find a book and read.Improve your mentality, enhance your IQ and be better in life. At least I found that to be more satisfying. every time I finished a book, I'm over the moon while loving the fact that I've at least widen every little bit of what I know and realise how shallow my mind was. 

Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans. 

Do what you love. Explore new things, new places. Have fun. You live once so go for it. If you're hurt, don't cling yourself to it. Learn to let go and stay true to yourself. Don't burden your heart any longer. You'll be fine sooner or later.

If you're not okay and are having a bad time, don't worry the bad times will soon be gone. Take a deep breath. I know a lot of you guys are struggling too. So take your time to get better. Move on your own pace. You know what you're capable of as you are your own master. If you wanted to cry, just cry. Let it all out. But as I always reminded everyone, come back stronger. Keep on smiling. You can do it. 

Here's why I put that ice cream photo. A week ago I went to the McDonald's drive thru with my classmates and ordered their vanilla & strawberry sundae cone. It was super good. We all loved it. Each one of us had a good laugh and that very moment was a blessing that I forgot all the troubles I had in mind. It leads me to this kind of post. 

Forgive me for rambling here unannounced and thank you so much for reading. 






Comments

  1. I do agree. Taking time off social media is important.

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    1. Yes it is. It is the most important phase if you want to fully heal.

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  2. Cheer up kak Ray! ;3 Don't worry, I guess everyone been there.Lagi pun,it's normal to feel unmotivated,since it helps us to be better...
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    Heeeee :D Nice motivational sharing kak Ray! <3

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    1. Thank you so much Hana Darling. If it really motivates and help I am super happy with it.
      You are most welcome cutie pie. ^^

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  3. kebanyakan kawan di socmed akak adalah kawan yang akak biasa kenal dan jumpa, yang dah lama kenal jarang kawan yang tak pernah jumpa...
    cuma akak suka berkongsi pasal makanan kt socmed, kehidupan sehari-harian akak rasa lagi penat untuk dilalui begitu je... sebab tu akak perlukan kwn-kawan di socmed... penat jugak kerja sambil tu uruskan si aiyan dan rumah... bila dapat layan cerita kawan-kawan di socmed kadang buat kita happy

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    1. That's good for you. You have good reasons to do so.
      If it benefits you then there's no problem at all.
      We all lead different kind of lifestyle kan. So different kind of approach are acceptable.
      I'm glad that you're doing okay. ^^

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  4. Selalunya kalau mengadap hp lama mesti tengok rancangan memasak di Youtube ataupun membaca guna aplikasi hp.. Sebab ada sesetengah buku tak boleh nak dibeli.. huhuhu..

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    1. I love it too. Even tak selalu memasak but I enjoyed watching people cooks.

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    2. seronokkan bila tengok orang memasak.. macam terapi.. Sosial media ni, kalau ada yang membawa negativity, memang diblock siap-siap..

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    3. Agreed. We should know our limits. kan akak.

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  5. Saya setuju! Sometimes its important to take a step back from socmed and living the life outside of it.

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    1. ikr. It's super tiring to stay on social media.
      I find it really enjoyable to just spend my quality time with family and friends.
      It seems I did forgot how good it was to live away from this social media world.
      How did I ever forget.

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  6. Yes Ray, I agree too! It's very hard to be positive all the time. But it's also true that we are probably the one who overthinking stuff. Everything is depend on how we look into things. By the way, I love the phrase "Don't burden your heart any longer." it's so meaningful for me. Have a wonderful day ahead, Ray! :)

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    1. I am glad that this post actually got a little bit of attention to some people. I really hope this could actually help even just a little bit. It means that we share the same situation and experience. I realise most us forgot a lot of things and take a long time to actually retrieve it back, just like I did. But I am glad that I was able to catch it back. Thank you so much Lala dear. Back at you as always. ^^

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    2. That's true. I think sharing experiences is one of the powerful way to encourage someone to believe in possibility and never give up. Keep writing, Ray I love reading this! You never knew how much I kept coming back to your blog <3

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    3. That means so much to me. I'll leave it here so that you can always come back and have a read on it. Same here. I love reading yours as well. Reading other peoples point of view actually helps me a lot because it helps me improve mine.

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  7. I don't have Instagram. Hehe and I don't add people in Facebook.
    Facebook is solely purpose for me to look companies' info like where situated, office hours. Haha.
    Yes differentiate between real and online.

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    1. Now that is amazing. Well, I think that is amazing.

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  8. Ahh those motivational stuffs. Kinda need it right now. Thanks so much for writing this post! :)

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    1. I am so glad you find it helpful. I'm sure you've been through a lot.
      Stay strong okay. May Allah ease everything for you.

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  9. Suka cari ice cream bila down... Stay sweet sis..

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    1. Kann. Somehow eating ice cream makes us feel better.
      The sweetness just throw all those bad thoughts away.

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  10. yeay.... i like your statement in last paragraph!
    Same like in my article on quarter life crisis and same in last paragraph. We just need to take deep breathe and release.
    And always keep positive.. and keep it up everything will gonna be okay

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    1. Oh I just read that one. Yes true. Things will get better.
      Let's try and be patient.

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  11. I was among those who get really affected from social medias ._. taking time off from the online world do helps in clearing my mind for a while :)

    Good post!

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    1. Thank you so much. Yeah too much social media exposure is so unhealthy.
      Not to some people but actually to all. We're all being affected by it.

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  12. "Sometimes, it's okay to not be okay." Just take a deep breath and cheer up. You'll be alright sis. Peace. <3

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    1. Thank you so much darling. Yeah that's true. You take care too okay darling. ^^

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  13. saya pun dah jarang buka social media. malas nak compare diri dgn life orang..

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    1. Yeah. I feel you. Sometimes we just can't help it. It happens. just happened.

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  14. I plan to be active in blogging this year. Maybe because not many of my real-life friends know my blog so it does not feel weird to encounter them after they have read any posts I've wrote :D

    Haha entahlahh, kadang2 rasa nak quit Instagram and all other socmed, but at times, I think I still need it to get to know what's happening in the world and new technologies etc :D haha

    hanisamanina.com

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    1. There are pros and cons in both decisions. I'd love to quit social media but there are things that binds me there not letting me quit. So taking a time off is the best solutions out of all.

      Well, these days I found it even better to be away from social media and updates a little less that I did before. I hope you'll find the best way for you.

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  15. That's exactly why I often absent from IG and twitter because I felt better outside of it.
    There's just so many photos that I took, thinking I should post it because people might think I'm no longer active but once I'm home, I'm like, "screw them."

    Not everything is meant to be share. Some things are best kept to ourselves.

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    1. I agreed. I realised I've been sharing too much and that people anticipate more from me. It's tiring to live according to other people's expectations. Someday you'll lose yours. And you'll lose you.
      Yeah I noticed that you rarely update and this time it's my turn too.

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  16. Taking time off from social media surely benefited our emotion. Itu yang kadang-kadang hilang dari radar hehe. Termasuklah hilang dari blog. Akaklah tu haha.

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    1. hahahaha sama la kita. Ray pun sama akak. Well, the decisions is always ours to make so there is nothing wrong with it. ^^

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  17. Adakalanya kita perlu rehat sebentar. Ambil masa dan buat something yang boleh happykan kita and enjoy it. After that, mesti kembali semangat :)

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    1. betul betul betul. setuju sangat. thank you akak.

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  18. rite now am so upset with something. i try to be positive but still i cannot focus doing my job and i end up here reading your blog n yeah i do agree with u, staying positive like all the time is tiring..sigh, i wanted to cry :(

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    1. I hope you're feeling better now. Itsokay. take your time to feel better. heal yourself first and come back stronger okay. Don't let your heart be burden by it anymore. you can do it.

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  19. Yup.. ada masa kita kena lupakan socmed for a while utk dapat kehidupan yg lebuh enak😆😆... penat jugak klo terus-terusan up to date dgn socmed...
    ~sbb tu, kalau waktu untuk luangkan masa dgn keluarga or friends... saya akan hilang berhari² dr socmed😁. A phone just to capture the memories with them and reply important mesej only.

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